Thursday, December 31, 2015

Pass The Time, Please.


Elusive time, how dare you slip away from me. I wasn't READY. I'd like a do-over please.

At times I contemplate about decisions I have made in past situations. Sometimes I think, "Yes! Good one, nice move." Other times go more like "How did I let that happen?" and want to kick myself and press the do-over button. Is this you?  Tell me I'm not alone here.

I'm very cognizant of the time slipping away. I ask myself if I've accomplished the things I wanted to make happen this past year, or at the very least moved them in a forward direction. Time misspent - not spent wisely, productively, lays on me like a warm blanket, while sitting in front of a roaring fire...during a hot flash.  Heavy, oppressive, confining.

Sometimes I have to cool my jets and realize that time is something, that while we have no control of it in the literal sense, we have complete control of how we utilize it. Knowing that gets me moving. It's up to me. It's up to you.  When you think about things you want to accomplish, what kind of blue print do you design to achieve it?

You know something that makes me crazy? People that are constantly, consistently, consecutively, late. Their excuses: "I am so busy!  I lost track of time. Time got away. Why? Because I am SO busy!" This wearies me. (and I am certain some are cringing). Keep reading though! There's a great video for you below on time management and accomplishing things.

Please know, I don't mean to call anyone out. I simply want to share the possibility that there is always time for the things we find important.  Ah... there it is!  Priorities.

Good intentions alone don't pan out when it comes to family, connecting with friends or your health and wellness. Time will run right over you if you let it.

Set your priorities. Write them down. If you are not intentional about what you want to create in your life, it is simply a wish. Wishful thinking doesn't cut the mustard - or is that cheese?  Well, either way, they both stink. ;)

Too often we think of something we want or want to do and then - Poof!  It's gone. The door bell rings; the laundry timer goes off and another load gets folded; someone just yelled downstairs, "What's for dinner?"; the kids are in and out of the house. Stuff happens, and that something you wanted to achieve so badly is now skirting around elusively in your mind and you wonder, wait, what was that thing I was wanting to do? Ah, you might even know and remember what it is, but are fearful that you will once again fail at it, so you go about your day and don't dwell on it too long, saying to yourself, you'll get back to it when you get a free moment.

Most people need authentic, tangible accountability. In general people have a difficult time honoring a commitment when things start to get hard or uncomfortable. It's also why people hire me. I am their accountability partner. I am there for you. I help you keep your eyes on the prize when it starts to get hard and you start to slip. I make sure you remember your big "YES!"

This is exactly why you need to know your What? How? Why? If you do not  have your rudder in the water, you're going to drift along aimlessly. A clean, white, lined piece of paper is your boat. Your pen with blue ink is your rudder. Write. It. Down.

Here's an example:

Create stronger friendships and relationships.
 - Set up a lunch date two times each month
 - Plan a GNO (that's guys or girls) at least once a month.
 - Send a note or funny card to friends two to three times a year just to let them know how much you appreciate them and their friendship.
 - Read a book about relationships. Learn and grow yourself to become the best version of you.
 - Refuse to blame others for your life.
 - And for goodness sake.. do not back out on plans that have been made! It can be extremely disappointing for those on the other end.
Sit and THINK about your WHY before writing it down. How is it going to make you FEEL? Get to the visceral level, feel it, believe it, own it. Now write your why down. It can look like this:
Doing these things will give me joy. My strong friendships are my tribe! I build and create these relationships to strengthen my level of integrity, character and accountability. Surrounding myself with people who I care for and care for me will give me peace, joy and a sense of community.

Lose 20 lbs. and stay fit.
 -  Start shopping healthier. Write out a grocery list that contains fruits, vegetables, healthy snacks    and lean meats. Go look around the produce area and think of healthier options.
 - Spend a couple hours on Sundays as a "preparation" time for your meals for the week. Get it ready! Wash, chop and pre-grill/cook. Make it as easy as possible for meals to be a non-stressful, no-brainer.
 - Half all portions.
 - Cut starches way down or out altogether (potatoes, rice, breads/rolls)
 - Drink more water! 8-12 water bottles a day. (yep, I said it) :)
  - Watch 2 hours less t.v. each night. Or skip it and go read, play a game, go for that walk.
 - Close your laptop and get off Facebook by 5 p.m. every day. It's a HUGE time sucker!
 - Get in a walk four to five times per week for at least 30 minutes.
Again, make your WHY yours and MEAN IT. Own it. Let it sink into you and become it.  Now write it down. It might look like this: I will feel more PROUD of myself when I take care of myself. When I eat healthier I think healthier. A lighter mood (and body!). More vibrant. A can do attitude because I've done the hard work and have not disappointed myself. Get my creativity and joy back by taking great care of me. Do more active, fun and exciting things. Get off all medications and grow old beautifully!

See what I mean?

Make sure not to have too many goals and resolutions. Having too many makes it difficult to focus. It will dilute the vision and hedge in the creative energy flow. In other words, be intentional, not flighty. People who flit from one shiny thing to the next and have no lasting passion for anything are who I would describe as flighty.

Remember to just breathe. Enjoy the ride: BREATHE, IT'LL ALL WORK OUT

When a fox tries chasing two rabbits, it gets neither. Focus and stay there until it is finished.

Here's a fabulous article from FORBES about time!

At the end of the day, we've each had the same amount of time. You get to choose how you feel about your day and what you did with your time.

If you are READY to do this and really want to stop wasting any time getting to your best you now: Check it out! There's a wonderful GIFT for you in there!

Merry Merry Christmas,

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