Yea, well. It's about as complicated as all that in real time as well.
Are you a pleaser? Do you say "yes" to everyone and everything because you are wanting to be liked, included, l.o.v.e.d.? Well, then this is for you honey.
Are you frazzled, irritated, frowning, busy - like, All.The.Time? Are you overwhelmed, short fused and grumpy? If you are saying "Yes! Gosh darn it!" then keep reading sugar.
Stop doing that. Psssst... let me share a little (okay, BIG) secret. It is OK to take care of yourself FIRST. In fact, it is essential to a happy heart, mind, spirit, soul and any connections you form on this earth. Seriously think about it, if in fact, you are that person who can't seem to say no. I don't know about you, but when I am spread too thin and not taking time for me, well, let's just say -- "momma NOT happy!"
How is your breathing? Go ahead and stop right here and take a deep breath from the belly and let it out real slow like - ahhhhhhhhh! Relax your WHOLE BODY when you do this. Do it three times. Did your shoulders drop a couple of inches from just plain old relaxing for a minute?
Everybody knows, if you do not take care of yourself first, you won't be much help to anyone else. (It's why they tell you to put your oxygen mask on first on planes...sorry for that visual!) Whether it's cleaning and clearing up your heart space, your head space, your TIME, your priorities, get yourself at the top of the list. Who is in your TOP 3? Do you know the sequence of a happy life? I'll share with you what I've found to work.
On this "L.O.V.E." day, which I think is nuts that it's only ONE DAY that we really try to make an effort to express our love for people in our life, which seems slightly depressing if that's the case, here is the sequence of priorities I have heard and found that actually works: God, you, your spouse (if you've got one), if not, then would come family. Quite frankly I could stop there.
However, after you've prioritized 1, 2 and then 3, is when you move onto whatever else is in your life... 4: kids/happy family life, extended family, friends, your job, house, lawn, whatever it is. If you don't have let's say the 1, 2, 3 down, how do you expect to have the 4th? It just plain and simple won't work well the other way around. It rarely does.
Why do we work harder at our jobs then our relationship with ourselves? Our significant other/spouse? How did that happen and why do we keep doing that?
It feels like an untruth to say that putting yourself above others is selfish. I am not talking about rude, selfish behavior. I am talking about taking the time for you. What brings you joy? What brings a smile to your lips? Do you like you? If you don't know these things, it's time to find out don't you think? It might be time to take care of yourself so you can be more of the loving, relaxed, open, SMILING, joyful person you are. Because you are all that!
On this love day, let me be one of the people that let's you know: YOU ARE IMPORTANT. YOU MATTER. Take some time and write down your priorities and find out where you stand. How is your life ordered? Try to rearrange them and see what happens. Let the pressure out of this cooker and take care of you!
I've heard and found out from others that a great place to start in taking care of themselves is with their bodies, because what follows is a happier self. A happier body, mind, spirit! If you'd like a little self-care you can find this to be a great place to start: GET YOUR GOOD JUJU and MOJOLICIOUSNESS ON!
Walking in Love,